I remember being single and really struggling with the idea of marrying someone and giving up my freedom to follow God wherever and however God would call me. I didnâ€™t like the idea of giving up the â€œIâ€ for the â€œWeâ€ because I felt like I would be held back somehowâ€”no longer able to pack my bags and head for Africa or Chicago or anywhere else God might call me at any notice.
A wise friend told me to wait: to not marry until there was someone with whom I experienced MORE of life; MORE of Godâ€™s initiative and calling and direction than I had on my own.
So I waited. And waited some more. And then there he was. The one I tried to not want. The one I tried to tell myself I could live without.
My wise friend got it exactly right. Life with Doug is richer and more full than anything I ever could have imagined. There is more of God, not less.
Last week we had the pleasure of four friends from Seattle invading out little apartment and making their home with us. On Saturday they left to return to their own lives and callings back home, and while our apartment once again feels roomy and quiet, I miss them terribly. And it is not the morning Starbucks runs that Dick would make or the groceries that would just appear in the refrigerator or the extra hands that were quick to hold the baby that I miss. It is that being with them made life richer and more filled with Godâ€™s presence and grace.
I think this is what being the family of God is exactly about. It is that move away from singleness; from independence, self-reliance and â€œfreedomâ€ to a place where life is better together than it ever could be alone. Itâ€™s a lot like marriage and I understand why many are skeptical or afraid. Being yoked to one another is a lot of work. It can hurt. It is sacrificial. But just like life in our apartment last week, in all of the chaos and compromise, it is a treasure I don’t want to live without.