Last night I drove to LAX to pick up an old friend, AB. She is here in L.A. for her spring break of her final year in college in the Midwest.
AB and I have a pretty special history together. In college, I was the coordinator for a big sister/big brother program in the inner city of Chicago. My job was to match college students up with kids in the neighborhood for mentoring relationships. Once a month, I would plan some fun activity for everyone to participate in together.
My â€œlittle sisterâ€ worked every Saturday at the swap meet, so she almost never made it to the planned events–she and I would get together on weekdays instead. AB was involved with the program and she was matched up with a college student, only her student was kind of lame and would often miss the events. Because I was usually â€œunattachedâ€ at our parties, and because AB was â€œbig sister-lessâ€ as well, we kind of adopted each other, and became each otherâ€™s honorary big and little sister.
As AB got older, our friendship grew in depth and substance. In my years in Chicago, she became one of the dearest people in my life. I will never forget in those early years receiving my first ever motherâ€™s day card from AB. I will never forget being the â€adultâ€ for her birthday slumber party at her house. I will never forget her screening the boys I would date. I will never forget the hours of conversations we shared about boys, the hood, God, and family. I will never forget being there for each other when J was killed.
Itâ€™s amazing to me where friendship comes from sometimes. Iâ€™m glad that itâ€™s like thatâ€”that you never know who will enter your life and change it forever.